Errands, appointments, social commitments, work, projects, to-do lists. The list goes on. This is life. And for most people like me, life is busy. Top all of that off with the baggage of grief and I am completely drained. There is not one ounce of energy left at the end of the day. Not one ounce.
I like to think that grief is the opposite of a feeding tube. Instead of the tube giving the body life-giving nutrients, the tube is constantly sucking life out of me. On top of all my worries, fears, and things to do on a daily basis, I also have grief to manage. It’s the background music that is constantly playing in my mind, distracting me and not allowing me to be fully present. Grief is my constant companion which thankfully reminds me of my daughter and makes her more present in my life. But it also takes me away from myself and those around me. It’s all about balance and that’s where self-care comes in.
Self-care. We’ve heard the term. We might even know that it is something important. But who has time for that? Where can I fit that in the calendar? Usually our agenda is so full, self-care gets put to the wayside. [Read more…]